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Thankful Thursday: I’m Thankful for this Mean Comment {and YOU}

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My blog has been growing lately – and it has been a blast! I love getting comments and hearing from new readers. The fact that more people are reading my blog means that I got my first REALLY mean comment last week. And even though I know this type of thing happens in blog-land, I was still surprised and hurt.

This comment made me question everything my blog is all about. It was so mean and nasty – and so opposite of what I try to do with my blog – that I really started to question all of it. (Thank you for all of the support on Facebook!)

I went back and forth about what I wanted to do. If I were advising my daughter, I probably would have told her to delete the comment and ignore this anonymous person.

But I really didn’t want to do that. Instead, I thought I’d use it as an opportunity to share a few things that I’m thankful for…

In case you missed it, here’s the comment:

Without sounding terribly defensive, I would like to say that I am incredibly happy. I amΒ constantly amazed that I get to live this life. I have three adorable children. A supportive husband. I live in the city I want to live in, in the house I want to raise my children in. I’m even grateful for my minivan (believe it or not!).

And Even Steven goes to work every single day to support our family – so that I can play with my kids and paste pictures of his head on other people’s bodies.

I’ve seen enough sad things to know how lucky I am to be living this life. And I have moments in every single day that nearly bring me to tears because I’m so appreciative of all that I have. Seriously – I was crying my eyes out at the zoo last weekend because I was so happy to be there with my family. (I’m totally lame like that!)

I am 31 years old, and I am living my dream!

Yes, my bio says, “I had three kids in three years. Now I spend my days wearing mom jeans and driving a minivan.” Your comment got me thinking that maybe it does sound a little bitter if you don’t know me and haven’t read my blog before. So I went ahead and added – {And I love it!} – because I do.

That said, I think whether you’ve been trying to become aΒ mom for years or whether it caught you by surprise – once you’re a mom – your life is flipped upside down and inside out. And as much as you love it and are grateful for it – it’s incredibly different. Acknowledging that difference doesn’t mean I’m not grateful – it means that I’m honest. And – to be even more honest – sometimes it really blows to have dirty diapers in your wall and pee in your toilet bowl brushes. Am I right?

That doesn’t mean I don’t feel thankful for these beautiful babies every single day. Because I do. But I’m also honest enough to admit that it’s not always sunshine and glitter.

I have nothing really to say about my Letter to My Family. It totally applies – and that’s really how I feel when I’m sleep deprived. I used to think I was tired in college when I stayed up all night. And then I thought I was tired when I was pregnant with my first child. And then I actually had a baby and realized what tired is. And then I had two more and REALLY realized what tired is. Sometimes, being tired makes me want to punch someone in the face. Instead – I write letters. Is that so bad?

Now – Even StevenΒ – not sure that he cares about me pasting his head on other people’s bodies. Not sure if he actually even knows about it to be honest. But it just makes me smile every time I see those pictures. He really is a “Superhero!”

And I never talk about my mother-in-law on this blog – but I’ll probably do an entire post about her one day. One of the reasons I haven’t really mentioned her is because I think I would immediately lose readers out of jealousy – that’s how great she is!

So – for today – I’m grateful for all of my blog readers – whether you know me in real life or not. Thanks for knowing that I’m a nice person that likes to find the funny – in the sometimes not-so-funny parts of motherhood. Thanks for reading, hopefully laughing, commenting – and putting up with all of my crazy craft projects.

Thank you!

And to you – anonymous reader – it sounds like things aren’t so happy in your life right now. I sincerely hope that one day your life is so great that you find yourself crying at the zoo because you can’t believe how amazing your life is – and how lucky you are…

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  1. Tiffany Jones

    November 17, 2011 at 11:54 am

    Well said. You had the perfect response! And please keep putting Even Steven's head on other people's bodies….it cracks me up!

  2. Sally

    November 17, 2011 at 12:19 pm

    I love your blog. I love your honesty and humor. And any parent who cannot see the humor in your posts about your everyday life is in denial. Or they have never had young kids before. You've got a gift for turning the mundane and sometimes not so pleasant things into something that makes your readers roll on the floor laughing, or point at the computer screen thinking "OMG I've totally been there too!" Thanks for the giggle every morning!

  3. patty

    November 17, 2011 at 1:05 pm

    I love your blog and your humor as a mom. I m not sure how I came across your blog but it makes me giggle out loud. I love your " letters" and esp. the one to your 8th gr. daughter ( I have 3 daughters). I don t think you sound bitter at all and I have actually told my daughters to read your blog because it's so positive and funny and real. I truly feel sorry for that writer because she does not sound like she s coming from a good place. I m guessing she s probably just not a very positive person. And I love how you handled her negative comment. Please keep on blogging!!!!

  4. Kelly Droscha

    November 17, 2011 at 1:25 pm

    Good for you:)

  5. erin

    November 17, 2011 at 1:26 pm

    I love your humor – and I think the picture of your husband is hysterical. I know my husband wouldn't care if I did that to him – he'd probably prefer it to some of the actual pictures of him I have (like the one of him wearing our toddler's scooby doo hat thing on halloween!
    I came across this blog one day – http://myfavoritehatemail.blogspot.com/-( I have nothing to do with this blog – but I thought you might see the humor in it) They post mean comments and then discuss – it's very funny.
    I don't know if the anon commenter is a mom or not – but it makes me so mad when moms are critical of one another…as wonderful as being a SAHM is – it's a hard enough job without someone criticizing us….we already are hard enough on ourselves. (I'm a total crier too since having babies!)
    Take care –

  6. Nikki

    November 17, 2011 at 1:28 pm

    Hi Anna – This is great! I'm glad you're not sweating it too much. Not everyone appreciates a good sense of humorβ€”and apparently not everyone HAS a sense of humor. Either way, I appreciate what you share. It makes me laugh everytime I stop in to read!

  7. shari lynne

    November 17, 2011 at 1:35 pm

    It takes a big person to be able to turn around a comment like that and do the right thing! Good for you!
    Blessings
    Shari

  8. cherie

    November 17, 2011 at 1:38 pm

    Great job! And, perfect for this thankful season! As your amazing,105 year old grandmother knows and demonstrates, a sense of humor gets you through all of the phases and ups and downs of this life. Carry on!

  9. Amanda

    November 17, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    I love reading your blog, it is nice to know that someone else has crazy things going on in their life and are real too. I love the humor you have about things, it really makes me smile. It is also nice in the world today to see a mom that enjoys and loves her children.

  10. Pam R.

    November 17, 2011 at 2:10 pm

    I just found your blog recently from your guest post on HOH. I LOVE every single thing I have read on this blog and your response to the mean comment was perfect. Your "letter to my family" sounds just like something I would write (I am a SAHM of 4 boys) and wasn't bitter but honest. You seriously crack me up with your posts; my favs so far are the ones about your liar mother and the stinky bathroom πŸ™‚ When I read one of your posts I usually find myself saying "I know exactly what she's talking about!" Keep up the awesome job you're doing on your blog!!

  11. Lavin the Adventure

    November 17, 2011 at 2:14 pm

    Well said, Anna. This is the first post of yours that I've read, and I already know that Anonymous has it all wrong. I'm grateful for Anonymous' post too, because it led me to your blog and now I cannot wait to follow it!

  12. Cosmo

    November 17, 2011 at 2:20 pm

    She needs to get off the computer and go looking for her sense of humor! Seriously? We've all been there as mothers, for the good and bad. Just found the blog recently and am loving it! Keep up the good work!

  13. Queen Bee Mom of Three

    November 17, 2011 at 2:28 pm

    Bravo! Bravo! Bravo!

  14. Andy Jameson

    November 17, 2011 at 2:31 pm

    Well said indeed, and I thought the pics were hilarious. Who uses "NOT" anymore anyway…that's so 90's ;o) Keep it up!

  15. Jessica @ Home and Faith

    November 17, 2011 at 2:35 pm

    I am a new reader and as a mom, I thought your humor (clearly, I knew it was humor) was refreshing. Having a family is not always easy, and if people think it is, they are sadly mistaken. And they will be depressed when their "idea" of family doesn't meet reality. Being a mom is tough sometimes. Sometimes we think our hearts are so full of love it is going to burst! Other times we are wanting to pull our hair out!

    As far as this mean comment, don't let it get you down. Anonymous causes a lot of trouble around blogland.

  16. Liz C.

    November 17, 2011 at 2:36 pm

    Anna, You are truly a good person and I love your blog. It brings a smile to my face each time I read it. I think you have the mother thing down pat. You're honest and open and what you go through is what every mother goes through. Your thoughts remind me of when my kids were little and it brings back so many memories. Keep writing.

  17. Lesley

    November 17, 2011 at 2:38 pm

    I think you handled this situation really well. I had 3 kids in less than 3 years and I can totally relate to everything! Thanks for writing and please keep being yourself!

  18. Erika M

    November 17, 2011 at 2:38 pm

    So proud of you Anna! Your response was perfect! I love your blog and look forward to reading it every day! You are a very gifted writer! Thanks for sharing your life and helping us all to see the funny in everyday situations that otherwise we would not see as funny (poopy diapers in the wall πŸ™‚ ). I cherish this time with my babies and I know you do too! Love you!

  19. Jenn G.

    November 17, 2011 at 2:51 pm

    Very well said Anna! I look forward to reading your blog everyday because it is so honest – and hilarious! Being a mom isn't always "sunshine and glitter" and you tell it like it is which helps all of us find the humor in our own lives. I don't often find myself laughing out loud at things I read but with your blog, I find myself always doing just that. Thanks for helping me find the humor in my life and sharing the humor in yours. Keep it up!!

  20. deanna

    November 17, 2011 at 3:01 pm

    OH goodness! Just now read the post. My heart goes out to the author. Comments that venemous only come from a place of deep hurt, pain, and jealousy. When someone has something you want more than anything in the whole world it can be torturous to watch or be around. Anna, you are such a beautiful woman, a talented writer, a passionate mom, and so full of so many amazing qualities. I'm sorry you were selected by this annonymous person as a target to lashout and release so much of the pain and frustration they have against life. I pray this annonymous writer is able to see all the beauty that fills their own life, and that rather than feeling frustrated and slighted by things they don't have, they choose to celebrate the many strengths, gifts and talents they posses.

  21. Queen Aly

    November 17, 2011 at 3:03 pm

    I have always enjoyed your blog and I have never once thought of you as bitter! I don't expect you to poop rainbows and unicorns everyday! This is real life! Keep on, Keepin' on, lady!

  22. Desiree @ The 36th Avenue

    November 17, 2011 at 3:03 pm

    Anna my love you are beYOUtiful!

    Now please change your blog settings and don't let anonymous readers comment. Keep blogging, keep having fun and keep making us all smile…

    We are grateful for you πŸ˜‰

    We love you girl!

  23. Queen Aly

    November 17, 2011 at 3:04 pm

    Unrelated.. I apparently overuse the ! when I haven't had coffee. πŸ™‚

  24. Shaina

    November 17, 2011 at 3:07 pm

    well played my friend!

  25. Sommer

    November 17, 2011 at 3:11 pm

    Hi Anna! I just found your facebook page the other day and now I saw this update and came by to have a read.
    Have you ever noticed that every single nasty/mean comment is from an "annonymous" blogger?
    Because these people who have so much to say are nothing but big old cowards. I never read teh post this comment came from since I'm new here but the way I see it… almost all of us bloggers have a private email posted and anyone who has a beef with me can email me privately. If you want to talk smack on my page with an anonymous comment you will be deleted and I will not think about you again.
    I have posted about things that I have lost followers over in the past. Like one time we accidentally ran over a squirrel but the circumstances surrounding the roadkill homicide made us laugh till we pee'd our pants. Well some people didn't find the humor in it and that is fine. I certainly dont expect everyone to agree with me. But I certainly do not plan to change my blog, my comentary or who I am to appease such a small, grumy and overall miserable audience.

    Don't stop being who you are. Xoxo

  26. [email protected]

    November 17, 2011 at 3:14 pm

    I don't understand hateful people. I am one of those women who would love to have a family, but unfortunately cannot have children. I have read your blog and only see happiness with funny thrown in and I love it. Keep doing what you are doing and forget all the hateful people. I for one will continue following your blog and living the family life vicariously through you. πŸ™‚

  27. Meghan

    November 17, 2011 at 3:31 pm

    Anna, I am a stay at home mom with two little ones and what I most appreciate about your blog is your honesty! Your posts reflect scenarios that many stay at home moms experience and it is a huge breath of fresh air to have difficult, wierd and stressful situations portrayed with humour. It is of course a joy and a gift to be at home with one's babies – but it is not always easy.

    Please continue to do what you do!

    Meghan

  28. Jennifer

    November 17, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    Well said Anna! I love reading this. You do an amazing job of finding humor in everyday life. Keep writing!!!

  29. Lori

    November 17, 2011 at 4:31 pm

    I love the way you handled the mean comment. I think you are hilarious and sometimes the only way to get through a tough time is with humor. The photos of your husband are so funny! Keep doing what your doing and don't change a thing.

    Lori : )
    Thrifty Decor Mom

  30. Kristi

    November 17, 2011 at 4:32 pm

    Love your blog, and your sense of humor. Glad that you show that we can be thankful for our lives, even know that we are blessed, but that doesn't mean that we don't get to blow off steam every now and then or complain about the little annoyance of the day. Keep on keeping on, because just as pasting Even Steven's head on bodies makes you laugh, it makes me laugh too! Love it all!

  31. Gloria Fox @ Potentially Beautiful

    November 17, 2011 at 4:39 pm

    Well said. I just found you through House of Hepworths and haven't read any other posts…yet, but life isn't all rainbows and glitter and we are all human. I feel like our blog readers are somehow like our friends and families. If we need to vent or discuss a bad day along with the amazing ones every once in a while, then go right ahead. It makes you a real person and relatable to your readers.

    Going to look around your blog now. πŸ™‚

  32. Rhea

    November 17, 2011 at 5:17 pm

    I stop by this blog every now and then and have a great laugh every time. Your humor and lightness about life comes through and I'm sure, brings comfort to other mothers. I am not a mom yet, but I hope to approach it with the joy and laughter you do. You are clearly very happy and grateful. Keep bloggin just the way you do.

  33. becauseithinkican

    November 17, 2011 at 5:22 pm

    Anna, as a stay at home mom to our 3 kids, I have found your blog so refreshing! Like I have said before, you make me laugh out loud… I love reading that your life is just as crazy and beautiful as mine is. Your response to this comment was perfect and emotional, and I hope this commenter has realized his/her mistake… and I hope this commenter finds happiness! You are fabulous and real, and keep it that way, as obviously A LOT of people love you for it!
    Leanne @ Because (I think) I Can

  34. Judie S

    November 17, 2011 at 6:15 pm

    Oh, puhleeeeeez!! Ignore that arrogant goofball who left you that note. You are funny, entertaining, and genuine!! What mom hasn't felt the way you do…the good and the tough parts!! Keep up the good work! You are appreciated more than you'll ever know!

  35. Kristel T.M.

    November 17, 2011 at 6:56 pm

    I'm a new follower since your guest post on HOH. I came over and checked out your stuff. I ended up clicking through your posts and spent way more time here than I originally intended. You made me laugh, you made me think, and you made me smile. I think you have a fantastic sense of humor! Your posts seem very real to me and I appreciate that more than anything. I love your response to Anonymous Reader and I'm glad you didn't let that person get to you. Thank you for entertaining me and making me laugh!

  36. Denise

    November 17, 2011 at 7:24 pm

    I just recently found your blog, but love it. When I've had one of "those days" there is always something here to make me laugh and know that I'm not the only one who has these thoughts. Thanks so much.

  37. Katie

    November 17, 2011 at 7:45 pm

    Oh for pete's sake – lighten up Frances!

  38. katie

    November 17, 2011 at 7:51 pm

    (Directed towards Anonymous – not you Anna!)

  39. jerri

    November 17, 2011 at 9:19 pm

    Thanks for keeping it real. I was a stay at home mom until two years ago, my darlings are now 16, 13, & 12, and like you, if I didn't find humor in any of it; I wouldn't have survived. As humans we are blessed to LOVE, even when we don't always LIKE.

  40. janeb

    November 17, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    Anna, Before I could even finish reading what the mean comment was, I needed to comment: That finally, finally a fresh and funny look at REAL life. Finally I'm laughing so hard and making my husband read your blog about the favorite (paint) shirts. Not taking motherhood and wifehood so seriously; most of all your taking it all in stride & noting that it's not always so sweet & sugary. I for one am over the blogs that make me feel inadequate. Keep going just as you are. Thank you for being a little piece of joy for me.

  41. janeb

    November 17, 2011 at 9:49 pm

    on a side note: WE're working on the canvas/christmas tree project this weekend. I will give thanks for the belly laughs & Thanks for the crafts too.

  42. Malorie

    November 17, 2011 at 9:50 pm

    What a mean comment! I have never commented before, but I just wanted to say that your blog is great and you are hilarious. Don't change πŸ™‚ I'm not even sure how that person could come up with that comment. No sense of humor maybe? I think it's pretty obvious that you love your kids and hubby.

  43. Something Nice and Pretty

    November 17, 2011 at 10:31 pm

    Hi! I'm your newest follower and can't wait to go thur your posts and laugh, love your blog too! I don't have a life like yours now but I did back in the 70's, 80's and 90's so it's fun to read your blog and think back to those days…they were not always fun but great memories were made!
    I found you from Transformation Thursday and so glad I did and as for the mean commenter I think you handled it so right…you have to pity her!

  44. Julie Woods

    November 18, 2011 at 12:01 am

    I think the number of positive comments in response speak for themselves! As a working mom I love your blog because it is so very real and hilarious and true for us working moms too! And it is an incredible act of bravery for you to put your life out there for everyone. What a contribution you make by helping so many other moms realize they are not alone! Someday, Anne Hathaway will be playing you in a hilarious movie about motherhood, and that rotten comment will be nothing more than a tiny piece of the plot. Keep your chin up!

  45. Angelika

    November 18, 2011 at 1:25 am

    I'm sorry someone felt the need to be bitter and mean. I don't typically comment on the blogs that I read, but I do want you to know that I read every post. I laugh when you put Even Steven's head on other people's bodies. I love your humor and your candidness. I like hearing stories about where your kids hide diapers and leave golden presents. Life with kids to me is being thankful for every day, including the not-so-good parts. Keep up the good work.

  46. Krystal

    November 18, 2011 at 1:31 am

    I love your honest yet hilarious blog. I am a stay-at-home mom to two babies..yes babies, they are 13 months apart. I nurse a four month old all day while telling my 17 month old son to stop eating q-tips, tearing toilet paper into pieces so small that even the vacuum misses them or using shampoo as lotion for his legs. It is the hardest job EVER. Keeping them alive, fed and relatively happy is the goal each day. So far, so good. Looking at Even Steven's head on various bodies makes me laugh hysterically. Please don't change a thing. I need the humor in your blog to get me through the hard times I experience. I look forward to dirty diapers in the wall and pee in the tiolet brush holder!! Thanks for being you!!!!!

  47. Mindy

    November 18, 2011 at 3:47 am

    Ugh. I'm sorry. That totally sucks. Not once has her point of view crossed my mind when reading anything you've written.
    Maybe that makes me an "unappreciative, bitter woman" who stays home with her kids too.
    Hope it didn't get to you too much. There's always someone out there who's gotta be negative to make themselves feel better or who just isn't living the life they want and lashes out at those who are.
    I say, keep the hilarity coming'! I'm dying every time you post something – I can completely relate and can laugh without it meaning I resent my family or my life.

  48. jennibell

    November 18, 2011 at 4:27 am

    I haven't read the other comments yet but I'm sure they're all about the same. . .supportive and "I understand". . .so here's another one along those lines! I "get" your sarcasm, your sleep-deprived "moments" and really admire your real-ness. There's enough "one-upmanship" in life; to encounter someone (like you!) who is just, well, *real*, we latch on and want to become your friend! Mom-to-mom, we're all in this together and it's just too bad that those who don't want to join in the support feel they have to leave their two cents and scamper away. But here's something else. . .the thankfulness part. . .it made you re-read your bio and clarify to YOURSELF that you are right where you want to be, blessed beyond all measure. In retrospect, that was kind of a gift, wasn't it?

  49. Leah

    November 18, 2011 at 1:34 pm

    Just posting to say that I really enjoy your blog and I look for new posts everyday! It gives me a great smile during the day and love to see what you come up with next! Keep up the great work! πŸ™‚

  50. Suzanne

    November 18, 2011 at 2:25 pm

    Maybe it has to do with not being a mom (yet!) I have to admit that I was a little confused when I read my first post here, but after two or three posts I really understood (and truly Admired!!) you for the love you have for your husband/family and the honesty to be able to tell us about the good and the bad.

    So maybe the anonymous commenter had only read one post and didn't really "get it" yet. But I LOVE the edit to your bio….it's much more reflective of who you are! Hopefully that will help new readers clue in faster to what you are all about!

  51. Katie

    November 18, 2011 at 2:26 pm

    Do you remember the conversation we had after I read your post about deciding to be a SAHM and how you REALLY know your kids now? Seriously you are the best Mommy I know and LL and I ask ourselves how you manage to ALWAYS be in a good mood (or if you're faking it…) We love you!

  52. adventuresindinner

    November 18, 2011 at 3:35 pm

    Becoming a mother totally caught me by surprise (at nearly 40) and I love it. All of it. That doesn't mean that sometimes I look back and think of the hours and hours I used to be able to spend reading, the nights we'd just 'take off' for couple time…and sigh. I wouldn't go back, wouldn't trade my kiddo for the world but things change and this truly is the hardest job in the world. For heaven's sake, we're trying to help form wonderful people who will take over the world. You might get tired once in a while.

  53. Heather

    November 18, 2011 at 4:33 pm

    I just had to comment and tell you that I am a new reader and spent about an hour one evening laughing at the humor you bring to our not always so humorous job of being a stay-at-home mom of 3 little kids!! I love your perspective!!

  54. Kimmy

    November 18, 2011 at 5:59 pm

    I'm a new reader, popped over from TT&J today after your blinged-out tree was featured (love love love, btw, and left you comment luv over there!) I haven't read all 53 of the comments above me, but I will say this:
    I believe this image of being
    a perfect wife,
    a perfect mom and
    a perfect homemaker, while still finding time to
    make perfect crafts AND
    maintain a beautiful, well-written blog
    is doing more harm than good to all women. I write on my own blog about being AUTHENTIC: It's too hard to pretend to be perfect and that when something fails miserably, when you're not the perfect all-seeing, all-doing blogger, it hurts worse–because then you feel like a liar too πŸ™
    My mom always says that we compare the worst of ourselves to the best of others ("I've been unemployed for 2 years while my best friend just hired a live-in nanny", for example, a case not true in my situation but in many others) and it sounds like your "hater" did that to you–took the weakest moments you shared and compared them to an unrealistic ideal of PERFECTION; anyone and everyone would fail that test.
    So, while I have yet to read your letter to your family and I have no clue what the pictures of your husband thing are about yet, I wanted to encourage you to continue sharing both your strongest moments AND your weakest–if only to help other moms, wives and crafters know we're not alone.

  55. Jennifer @ The Brilliant Crafty Type

    November 18, 2011 at 10:58 pm

    I absolutely LOVE hearing other mom's "rants" because it makes me feel normal! Show me a mom that has no complaints about her husband or children and I will flick that mom right in the forehead {and that is the nicest thing I can think of}. I love my family, but sometimes I just want to run out of the house screaming at the top of my lungs. It isn't because I do not adore them, it is because I adore them so much that at some point the woman inside me starts freaking out because she can't breath from all of the love and selflessness! Now that my friends is love.

  56. Fawn

    November 19, 2011 at 12:19 am

    Well said, Anna. I don't know that I would have responded in such a kind and gentle manner. I still have a lot to learn. Reading your response was a blessing :).

    I remember when the L.A. Times and Channel 7 did interviews with me on my blog, I got a few nasty emails. But I still don't know what they said because Keith screened them for me. I asked him to screen all comments in the weeks surrounding those two interviews because I knew I'd get some bitter responses and I'm not as thick-skinned as I'd like to be. Even now, if I google my blog, I know there are some nasty comments out there. But I still don't know what they say (lol).

    Talk to you soon!

  57. kshearer

    November 20, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    You keep on rockin' it mama!! I read your blog all the way from Costa Rica and I LOVE it! It's hilarious and real. I find your honesty to be extremely refreshing. Obviously the one thing you love the most in your life is your family. . . or you wouldn't be writing about them! Keep doing what you're doing and we'll keep reading. There will always be Debbie Downers, just be thankful you aren't one of them!

  58. Hannypinkmint

    November 21, 2011 at 6:41 am

    I just came across your blog a couple of hours ago and I love you already!! You have such a great sense of humour and that was a wonderful response to a mean comment. And the next time my hubby annoys me, I'm gonna to attempt what you did. Only that I'll picture it in my head cuz it's easier for me that way. πŸ™‚

  59. Danee

    November 21, 2011 at 7:55 am

    Props to the honest blog. I too hate the "I LOVE being a MOM to my 3 ADORABLE kids who are the LIGHT of my life and never give me anything but JOY. They all have rainbows floating above their heads- helps me know where they are all times πŸ˜‰ I'm married to my BEST Friend the SEX GOD and we live in a PERFECT HOUSE with a picket fence and furniture I bought for a grand total of $5.34 plus paint!!!!!!!! I refinished all the furniture myself in between the kiddos naps-they nap ALL DAY (LUCKY ME)!!!!!!!! I live to make fresh and nutritious meals for my family- we only drink unicorn milk, vegetables that I grow in the desert, and although I bake fresh desserts EVERY single day….I am a size 4…oops did I say that out loud?!!!!"

    UGH, let's all be honest about how life is good and wonderful but sometimes it is hard. Really, Really hard. Sometimes stay-at-home moms begin to lose their identity as they take care of everybody else. Talking about it doesn't mean I am ungrateful for what I have and it doesn't mean I don't know how lucky I am that I can stay home with my kids. I know that not everybody can do this and I know that millions of women send their kids to daycare in facilities they aren't entirely confident are safe but they MUST work to feel their children. But ANYBODY who thinks raising kids in 2011 is ALL JOY is full of crap, naive, and has yet to deal with the realities of social media and technology. You go on and tell it like you want to because it is your blog. It is your Blog…. It Is YOUR BLOG. It IS YOUR BLOG. IT IS YOUR BLOG.

  60. Miranda

    November 21, 2011 at 11:51 am

    Oh, my word, I'm am in love with your blog. Your writing in honest and fresh, and I am so glad I stumbled over here. We moms have to stick together, and I'm following right along with you now πŸ™‚

    Miranda
    http://www.justdrinkacoke.com

  61. Margo

    November 21, 2011 at 1:32 pm

    I think you handled the mean comment in exactly the right way!

  62. Jennifer Kirk

    November 21, 2011 at 4:22 pm

    Rock on. My husband and I tried for years to have a child and finally were blessed with the most wonderful little boy in the whole wide world. And still, there are moments when I think I want to just run away and never look back. Being a mom – of one or twenty – is HARD WORK. And whoever left you that nastygram isn't appreciative of THAT.

  63. [email protected] mom, a wife, and a me

    November 21, 2011 at 4:22 pm

    Well put! (And your a better mom then me because with 4 kids I refuse to drive a minivan πŸ˜‰ )

  64. queen bee tracy

    November 21, 2011 at 8:03 pm

    Kudos to you for giving an open response to Anonymous. I just "adore" people who have some sick and sad need to be mean and hateful under the false security of anonymous.
    Thanks for keeping it real. That is what life is all about. And through the good, the bad and the in between, we realize it is what makes our spins on the planet so amazing. Write on sistah!

  65. Kennedi Rose at Face & Fitness

    November 21, 2011 at 8:41 pm

    What a beautiful response! I love it!

  66. Shay

    November 21, 2011 at 9:24 pm

    you have a beautiful family! i always wonder why people have to be mean???? New Follower!Shay πŸ™‚ http://raisingdieter.blogspot.com/

  67. Auntie Joy

    November 22, 2011 at 2:22 pm

    yo girlfriend DO NOT let some STOOPID anonymous IDIOT hurt your feelings, if it has to be anonymous they don't even know who they are. HUGAS to you.

  68. Jessica

    November 22, 2011 at 5:05 pm

    I think you are absolutely hilarious! Don't take a strangers comment too seriously, she doesn't know you and is judging you off of a few sarcastic comments and posts. I am your newest follower and will love checking your blog for a few laughs.

  69. karah

    November 22, 2011 at 5:48 pm

    Well put! I dread the day of the first negative comment. You handled yours perfectly!
    Karah @ thespacebetweenblog

  70. Darling @ Junque 'n my Trunk

    November 23, 2011 at 12:35 am

    Good response! Sometimes things sound different when reading them – than they were intended when they were written – does that make sense?? Anyhow, what i mean is wow! She was mean! I truly believe you have to look where the comment is coming from, and it is really the one writing the mean words, who is the bitter one. (& jealousy can be an evil thing) – A blog is not a place for angry comments – we post things because we are proud of them! We want the support of a sisterhood of adult women! (or men) All of us need and love praise for our work, weather it it is parenting, crafts, decorating, or cleaning the darned oven! Don't apologize for anything! You are awesome! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

  71. Peggy

    November 23, 2011 at 8:26 am

    Don't apologize for anything and importantly don't let anonymous poop heads get to you!

  72. Brooke @ www.Getouttamyheadplease.com

    November 24, 2011 at 1:18 am

    Anna,

    I LOVE your blog , I love how you handled this (hater) comment , I agree with the above I love your honesty the most , I think its good to vent and get out the things that we are stressed about or when we are tired . I find when Im super tired and talk to a gal pal and have a good laugh over my everyday life as a wife and mother I feel better and I can handle to ups and downs of the day

  73. Anonymous

    November 25, 2011 at 4:29 pm

    You go girl, keep being happy!
    So much more easier to make bad-comment, insn't it??
    Happinness is a choice we make.
    Happinness is not comming just like that out of the blue..
    I like to think about it like an ability to go throught life itself, all depend on you πŸ˜‰

    ps. first time reader, will come aroud more.. oh, and, i think your mean-reader might want to know, i don't even have kids.. and i'm a stay at home gal.. but it's not a choice, it's health, and i'm making the most of it.. thinking about kids because, what in the world is most important than happy kids, raise by their owns, in a place call home.. instead of anybody, anywhere teaching anything.. to my kids.. no ways!!

    Be rpoud girl, you deserve it πŸ˜‰
    Society don't understand it, not a big deal, if you're happy, and i know you are πŸ™‚

    Malvina sew-sew

  74. imklvr

    November 26, 2011 at 12:34 pm

    I don't usually comment on posts when they already have a lot (like 73!!) but this one I must. No, I don't know you, but I do. I've read your blog long enough to be excited when I see it on 'Tip Junkie'. I didn't even have to read THIS post to know those things about you. You are right to give that sad person some compassion. I'm a mother-in-law, and a grandma, and I'd be proud to have you in my family! Keep up the good work, kiddo. God and I love you.

  75. AlexandraG

    November 26, 2011 at 6:36 pm

    I love your blog! I love that you see the humor in things your family does & I hope that when I'm a parent I can look at things that way as well!

  76. Jennifer

    November 29, 2011 at 1:02 am

    I am a stay at home mum with 3 kiddies under 5 and I know where you are coming from. Sometimes things are hectic and the kids can drive you up the wall but we never regret anything. I think your response to this person is fantastic. I hope whatever it is they are missing in life or is causing them to lash out at a stranger turns itself around and gets better

  77. Shell

    December 14, 2011 at 2:05 pm

    People are crazy and will judge without knowing.

    I've often thought how I complain on my blog more than I talk about how much I love being a mom. I do love it… but it seems like it's the tough stuff that gives me more to write about, rather than just writing "Oh, I love my life!" b/c how annoying is that?

  78. Carolyn

    December 14, 2011 at 4:55 pm

    I think it comes with the territory. We open ourselves up to good and bad comments. You've handled this gracefully.
    And you're right, once you become a mom, you don't know what hits you. You think you are ready, but you never can be completely πŸ™‚

  79. Sara

    December 14, 2011 at 4:55 pm

    Great response! People are crazy & so frustrating!

  80. Anastasia

    December 14, 2011 at 7:07 pm

    I think if someone has something to say it should not be anonymous. That's just cowardly. And I think you took the classy approach. Good deal.

  81. Infertile Mormon Mommy

    December 15, 2011 at 6:17 am

    I got some super mean comments on my blog after I vented a little about something that totally drives me nuts. I didn't really respond to them, but your response is very nicely put! I'm here from PYHO and I've never been to your blog before, but from just one post and a little look around your blog it seems to me that you love your family very much!

  82. Anonymous

    December 15, 2011 at 4:06 pm

    I enjoy the way your mind is wired, your blog is super and I look forward to every new post. Keep on being your very delightful self, -and way to go on that rude comment! You rock! β™₯

  83. Anonymous

    December 16, 2011 at 6:58 am

    Somewhere recently I heard this comment, I am not sure who to attribute it to, but it makes sense to me.–Those who belittle are will always be little. I enjoy your posts!

  84. Janey

    December 19, 2011 at 5:33 pm

    Just found your blog and love it! Ignore those kinds of comments. Anyone who gets it knows this is real life. We don't become moms and suddenly have flat personalities. We still feel it all and should express it all. Our families know us and love us. And stepford moms weird me out anyway. Nobodies cookies should come out perfect everytime. Keep up the real life!

  85. kt

    December 19, 2011 at 11:22 pm

    Ignore this kind of comment! I just discovered your blog and love it! I am a retired kindergarten teacher, mother, step-mother, grandmother, crafter…
    I understand your humor!

  86. Mindie

    December 26, 2011 at 10:17 am

    I have been there, and had nasty comments on my blog. I doubt it is ever from folks that follow my blog, because they know me, and I am sure it’s the same for you. Folks should not comment and say something nasty like that, when they don’t know the content of your sight, and the love behind it all. Don’t let it get you down. I have shared some nasty remarks I have received on my blog, surprisingly some were not anonymous. I even shared a post on hate mail, and I didn’t leave out the names of the folks that left the nasty comments, because I figure anyone that takes the time to leave a comment like that, doesn’t care what other people think of them. I am sure these sort of hateful comments come from jealousy and insecurities in their own lives. You rock, keep up the good work.

  87. sparkling74

    December 26, 2011 at 11:01 am

    I think blogs were invented so mothers can blow off steam, corroborate on the insanity of being mothers and keep us all entertained along the way. I find your tales hysterical and love that you can find the humor in the inane and mundane. Being childish makes for better mothers because they know how to be fun and spontaneous with their own kids. Like pasting daddy’s head on other people’s bodies! I’m adding you to my blogroll because I’m so amused!

  88. Kelly

    January 5, 2012 at 10:23 pm

    She’s a sad lonely woman with no sense of humor! Fuh Get About It!
    So hitch those mom jeans up and keep on writing!
    Kelly

  89. [email protected]

    January 12, 2012 at 9:53 am

    People need to get a sense of humor. I’m going to open up a shop that sells them. Maybe I’ll get rich. But probably not, because if people need to buy one that probably wouldn’t… You keep being you. I am in the middle of that as well after reading that my blog was “annoying” on a Pin on Pinterest. That’s great. She can suck it. I’m not changing. Not to mention the anonymous “review” I got from a blog party I participated in. She like my “blog” but not my use of slang, but dat’s how I roll, and I ain’t changin’ nuthin…she, too, can suck it. There are a whole lot of other “proper” blogs to read. I would never have touched someone’s style like that. My reviews were centered around the technical aspects…Content IS the writer… Dis that and DIS the person, not the blog…K..off my soapbox now. You’re great. Don’t change a thang…

  90. Candice

    January 12, 2012 at 12:38 pm

    About a week After you posted the fat guy transformation pic, my husband had to upload a photo of himself to his HR department for their records. His proceeds to show me a picture of what I thought was going to be him but it was the same fat guy pic you used! Lol! I married a funny guy because he sent that picture and I thought it was genius! His HR person did not question it but he felt bad and sent a recent photo! Keep the humor coming! I can’t stand when people call other people down in public space!

  91. Sarah

    January 14, 2012 at 9:18 pm

    Beautifully stated. Keep bloggin’!!!

  92. Kai

    January 15, 2012 at 9:34 am

    HOOOOOOOOLY COW! You are SO much nicer than I am. I would have (a) deleted the hateful comment, (b) told that woman to stick a dirty diaper where her MOUTH is, & (c) used up my entire YEAR’S worth of bad language on her. Good grief. But the fact that you handled it so beautifully tells me what kind of a person you are! NICE! I am ALMOST as goofy as YOU are (trust me when I tell you that was said with the highest admiration because I LOVE goofs!) and I just discovered you via Tatortots so I came back today to read more! Anna, you DO have an awesome family! But it’s OBVIOUS to all but – uhhh – morons that you already KNOW that. Forget the crazies. (Well, don’t forget ME ’cause I’m the ‘good’ kinda crazy – LOL.) And let this mom, grandma, great grandma tell you that your blog is just pure FUN! Soooooo glad to ‘meet’ you! Kai-sounds-like-hi!

  93. Pam

    January 15, 2012 at 2:58 pm

    hi Anna!
    WOW! this is the FUNNIEST blog ever! KAI sent me over here! I really trust her to spot great humor and boy this time she did not disappoint me at all. You are so funny! I love, love, love the diapers in the wall! Oh my goodness, I guess that beats my “What is that funny looking orange stuff on the ceiling of the kitchen?” incident! ROFLMBO! Kids do some the most “fantastical” things and what comes out of their mouths…well, let’s just say that I completely “get” your blog and anyone who doesn’t just doesn’t have any sense of humor – there are those “rare” people out there! They are bitter and angry at … well who knows what and that probably changes with the direction of the wind or not even that!!! I know some of those people too. I pray for that commentator and all like that person who just has an “empty glass” to share with us all.
    This is one funny place and I plan to come back often (everyday) We all need to laugh! I didn’t say it first, but LIVE, LOVE, and LAUGH!
    hugz

  94. Design Fluff

    January 17, 2012 at 10:01 am

    I’ve run across people like that in real life. Not on my blog, it’s probably too new, yet.
    I don’t think you need to change anything on your blog over one reader who obviously can’t read between the lines. I think your humor and love for your family come across loud and clear without the need to explain. It’s really nice to come across blogs where they display the humor in everyday life as a wife and mother. Other mothers/wives are laughing along with you because they know. They know! This may be about the third time I’ve visited your site so I”m not familiar with you but, I can say you don’t need to explain anything, it’s obvious to most.

  95. Design Fluff

    January 17, 2012 at 10:05 am

    Oh, for the love of grammar! I wish they would make an editing option for those who proof read after the fact!

  96. Design Fluff

    January 17, 2012 at 10:07 am

    Ha! I did it again! What is wrong with me? I’m outta here before the grammar police get me. Peace!

  97. Betsy @ Anna Nimmity

    January 19, 2012 at 9:39 am

    Great post! I don’t think an unappreciative person could share the things you share with such grace. I naturally assume by the tone of your writing that you love your life and you’re smart enough to find humor in the hard parts. Keep it up!

  98. Cinthya

    January 22, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    I really don’t understand why someone would go out of their way to ruin someone’s day. But it’s like you said…haters are very unhappy with their own life. I have experienced the worst hater of them all. My own sister. She has told me flat out that my kids are annoying, that they have ugly feet (I still don’t get that one) and that, as she put it, “I’m a really bad mother and overall horrible person”. I could get into way too many details but my point is that sometimes we don’t always hear the best things from people it’s how we take it that matters. Needless to say I don’t speak to my sister too much because trying is draining for me and I’m trying to live a more positive life. Bottom line…Way to go on this post. I loved reading it.

  99. jess

    January 25, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Wow! great post! love how anony’s can leave mean comments.
    Im glad you blasted them for everyone to read it.
    I love your blog and I get you. Everyone that has a kid “gets” you. So don’t worry about mean peeps, obvs they shouldn’t be reading this blog if they are perplexed by motherhood. Your blogs specifically states what you blog about. duh. have a great day I just saw your post on 4th child, Im scared to give my highchair, you know what happens when you give my last baby-thing away. πŸ˜‰

  100. Evergreen Eden

    February 5, 2012 at 2:40 am

    Woohoooo! This is my 1st comment to you ever (will NOT be the last, I assure you!) And it looks like it’s the exact 100th comment on this fabulous post of yours! πŸ™‚ How kismet is that?

    Well I just want to say that you SO totally rocked your response to that regretfully sad person. (I have a feeling that’s approx. what the first 99 or so commentators said, but I’m on my phone so we’ll be lucky if this comment even works. Or gets to you before someone else beats me to #100.)

    Awesome, awesome way to turn it into something positive!! And trust me, if someone has a problem with finding the humor in life, they do not know how to truly laugh, at ALL. Or live.

    Thank you for being hilarious and adding to my Very Favorites list in Reader! And for the record, any fool can see how much you ADORE your family AND your life. πŸ™‚ So great to meet you. I’ll be back for every post!

  101. Amanda

    February 14, 2012 at 9:35 am

    Holy crap! I’m in awe that people can be so immature. You’re funny. I suspect that like me, you may be just a hair sarcastic…..that’s cool. Kudos to you for not deleting the hate mail and just taking it in stride!

  102. Jackie

    February 14, 2012 at 10:44 am

    With your blog getting bigger realize there are people who are TROLLS. They “troll” the web stirring up trouble. They are lonely people who have nothing better to do than drag others down. They are all over message boards, newspaper comments, and sadly finding their way to people’s personal blogs. Your blog is your blog and you can say what ever you want to. I thought the “Letter to your family” was pretty funny. We all have nights and moments where we wish we were anything but a mom. But I wouldn’t give it up for anything!

  103. Kelly

    February 14, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    Great response. It is not what happens to us but how we respond to it that is important. The comments of others make us think, but should be well crafted and guarded. I could read your blog all day, an you mine, and we might never know who we really are. It is about discovery and growing. Let’s face it, not every Mom and Wife moment is a Kodak moment and that is life and that is okay. ~Kelly

    unDeniably Domestic

  104. [email protected]

    February 14, 2012 at 9:03 pm

    Obviously with 104 comments you struck a chord ;). Great response girl!

  105. Nicole @ Scrap Me Baby

    February 15, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    I found your blog through a comment you left on Home Stories, and I clicked over to read. I can honestly say I haven’t as of yet experienced a mean comment on my blog – but your honesty and openess in dealing with yours shines through! I am going to pop back and poke around some more, because I think I may need to become a follower;)

  106. mindy

    February 15, 2012 at 6:50 pm

    Bitter, party of one? Your table is ready.

    Geez, leave it up to someone who has no sense of humor whatsoever to leave that sort of ridiculousness on your blog. For the record, I get your humor, I think you’re hilarious, and I think we should start a blog where everyone pastes their men’s faces on other people’s bodies and shares the photos. (Seriously… how fantastic of an idea is that?!)

  107. Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms

    March 2, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    This is great. This momma gets it, so just keep doing what you do. And that picture of your baby with the shadow, I melted a little bit. πŸ™‚ Ellen

  108. Mandee

    March 6, 2012 at 11:20 am

    Love your response! I also love that you’re “real”! I know that I can relate to almost everything you write about motherhood! While thankful for the opportunity to be mom it’s a hard job and everyone experiences it differently! So if someone decides to read you experiences and only remember the few negative things and not realize all the positive things then shame on them! No need to water down your experience or thoughts just to please others!

  109. Linda

    March 7, 2012 at 11:36 am

    I landed here from a link party and can I just say wow! to your anonymous commenter?

    I have a sense of humor similar to yours and I guess people who don’t ‘know’ us, have no idea that you we kid or over-emphasizing just to get a laugh. I read your ‘letter to family’ and took it as : She really loves her family but damn, that was a tough night, and I would have felt at the end of my rope too.

    I don’t have enough followers to have earned me a mean comment yet, but I can only say that it will sting the day it arrives.

    People who don’t have what you have and wished they did, can be bitter the second they see something you say as a complaint, and therefore judge that you are ungrateful, and therefore undeserving of what they see as your perfect life. They are, of course, completely right.

    Don’t you know that you should never write about having a rough day? Only people who don’t have children, husbands, and jobs outside the home have the right to feel irked and write about it. God!

  110. Kim

    March 7, 2012 at 6:53 pm

    Great job!!!! I commend you for taking the high road. Your post was thoughtful, kind and loving, where it would have been easy to just attack the commenter. (Which, I notice, some of your other followers did! lol.)

    I’m really enjoying your blog – I love all the fun you poke at motherhood! Even without your adding {and I love it}, it’s perfectly clear that you do. As do I. πŸ™‚

  111. MJ

    March 8, 2012 at 4:06 am

    People who leave mean comments are either bored, unhappy, or dont have anything better to say. Not everyone’s blog is to everyone’s taste but there is really no point in telling them that! Someone once said: if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. I couldnt agree more. I’m happy to hear that you love your life, something that some of us need to be reminded of about our own lives sometimes. Cudos to you for showing this person that you will not be put down by his comment. Enjoy your happy life, you deserve it πŸ™‚

  112. Mod Podge Amy

    March 9, 2012 at 7:13 pm

    You shouldn’t even have to apologize for being snarky – and I don’t mean snarky in a bad way. Because I too can be somewhat snarky sometimes. It’s how some of us deal. We don’t hate our lives or our loved ones . . . that’s just our sense of humor. My favorite “type of funny” is finding humor and irony in daily life, and you do a great job of that. Thanks Anna!

  113. Becky

    March 9, 2012 at 7:53 pm

    Honestly, who writes comments like that? Did that person have a bad day and just go looking for somewhere to let out her frustration without any repercussions?

    Anyone who says being a parent/mother/having kids is easy or always perfect is LYING. Being honest, that’s what it’s all about. I strive to write about the bad times as well as the good times on my blog so that no one ever thinks that I think it’s all sunshine and roses. Because it’s not. But it’s great.

    You handled this like a PRO! Love your blog and am now a follower (based on your mail man stories, but this one doesn’t hurt, ha)

  114. meg

    March 14, 2012 at 3:37 pm

    first time reader, found you on pintrest… just feel the compelling need to tell you how reading this post felt like home to me. i couldn’t have said it better myself!!! amen sister!! being a mom is amazing and there are times that are beautiful and touching and amazing and there are times that you get poo in your hair or vomit down your shirt and i have SO wanted to punch people in the face b/c i was so over-tired! πŸ˜›

    i used to make hair bows and sell them on etsy and facebook and i had an awesome fan base and all it took was one mean chick to make me question all of it. one nasty email about my “terrible quality” and how she would never put these clips on her child so she’d give them to someone who didn’t care about quality. wow. (p.s. she won them for free in a giveaway-ha) it was so upsetting and no matter how i tried to rationalize it (she’s a stranger, who cares, etc.) it still stung. a lot. for a while. but i guess that’s life. thanks for handling it with such grace and humor. you rock!

  115. wiggymagpye

    March 14, 2012 at 4:18 pm

    I agree with the person’s comment. And tired? I have had chemo and a 2 year old. Go whine somewhere else about being tired.

  116. Kim

    March 17, 2012 at 5:29 pm

    I just recently found you through Kim at http://letmestartbysayingblog.com/ and I think “anonymous reader” needs to get a sense of humor, among other things. All of us write blogs for different reasons, mostly to make others, and ourselves look at our lives with a little funny. Sometimes you would cry if you didn’t. These are supposed to lighten your day, people! What’s really funny is how cruel someone can be when hiding behind “anonymous”. Show yourself, then comment again.

  117. Misty K

    March 19, 2012 at 11:17 pm

    Thank you! thank you for not just ignoring this person. Far too many people just let “mean” people get away with their blind judgement. Youre reply was priceless. I too wish sometimes to paste my hubby’s face on other peoples bodies…he would probably do the same to me at times. Its true that life is not all sunshine and glitter and sometimes it just down right is crappy! We cant pretend that is not reality. Then how would be know what the good stuff is?
    Go on enjoying your blessed life, good bad and ugly…. its all about the love.

  118. Misty K

    March 19, 2012 at 11:26 pm

    and somewhere out there is a women who is going through something worse…..there is always a story. If you read her reply she stated that she knows how blessed she is to be given such a life she never said she was whining. Simply stating a fact for her life, not yours or anyone elses just hers. I hope that you are in recovery and will be one day watching your child walk the stage for his/her diploma. We shouldnt be trying to one up each other but just find the joy in each others lives, what is it about women that we feel the need to do that!?!?!?

  119. Judy P

    March 22, 2012 at 1:17 pm

    I agree with those who support you. I am saddened by the lack of civility shown in blog comments. I think bitter, mean people have such narrow lives (no friends) that they spend their days looking for blogs to rant and spout vile comments on. Admittedly, there will be times that people disagree about things but can’t we be civil in expressing our opinions? Remember Rodney King? Why can’t we all get along?
    I have seen such vicious remarks on religious sites, etc. Why can’t people heed the advice, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” ?

  120. Laura

    March 26, 2012 at 3:34 pm

    I just went and read that letter to your family. Its hilarious and anyone with multiples or older children has been there and probably laughed too. I’m thinking your mean commenter is trying to conceive and can’t and through the pain couldn’t see your love and comedy.

  121. Jen at PIWTPITT

    March 28, 2012 at 8:36 am

    You haven’t “made it” until some nasty troll leaves you an anonymous mean comment. Congratulations. πŸ™‚

  122. NellyKelly

    March 31, 2012 at 12:06 pm

    Im a pretty new reader who just loves your blog, your ideas, your sense of humor, and your obvious attitude of gratitude. I’m so sorry that some dope ruined your day. I totally know what you mean about how you would tell your kids to handle it and how you just can’t quite do that yourself. It’s hard when people hit you where it hurts, and obviously misunderstand you to that degree… It’s impossible not to let that get in your head! please please please please know that we get you, we love you, and we are furious that someone would hurt our Anna! I know it doesn’t help much, but I’m sure none of us would want to trade lives with that troll for one second. God bless, and know that unfortunately Jen’s comment above is probably true: you haven’t made it til this happens. Keep up the great work

  123. Chelle

    April 1, 2012 at 10:57 am

    Well done… well done!

  124. eve

    April 3, 2012 at 11:54 am

    I went back and read what you wrote and it didn’t even seem bad to me. That anon comment was nasty. I wonder if she is biter that you have a family and, to her, don’t seem to cherish it. I’ve struggled with infertility and sometimes it’s hard to hear other people seem to take for granted what you want so much. I really have no idea, that’s just what I thought of.

    Anyway, I hope you don’t let the comment bother you–it sounds like you’ve got way more people rooting for you then against you.

  125. Bethany Thies

    April 6, 2012 at 11:49 am

    Beautiful and perfect. You are a classy lady. If you can’t laugh about the hard parts of parenthood, then you can not FULLY enjoy the remarkable parts. As sense of humor is the key to surviving the glorious, pee filled job of being a mom. Kudos to you for being honest and true to yourself.

  126. [email protected]

    April 16, 2012 at 9:48 am

    Thanks for being so honest — once again! — about the stinky parts of life. There are judgmental people and there are days where mommy is so tired she can’t even see straight and knows there is more to come. Better to admit it, find the random bit of sunshine, laugh and move on. Your blog is funny because every wife/mommy (not in denial!) can relate! You handled the situation beautifully!

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  128. Wani

    April 20, 2012 at 8:44 am

    Such a good response to such a spiteful comment! I have never thought you were anything other than a mom keepin’ it real. I am a SAHM and it is hard work – more than I imagined. And some days (when I’m in the midst of cleaning up poop that has been smeared on the wall (and then eaten) during naptime) it sounds dreamy to go to a “real” job. But when it comes down to it I want to be here, with my kids, sharing in their exploration of this world that we live in. They make me see things in a new light and appreciate everything we have even more.
    Thank you for not letting a nasty comment keep you from doing what you are doing. God Bless You!
    Proverbs 31:2 8Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her.

  129. Vicki

    May 5, 2012 at 9:17 am

    I just stumbled upon your blog via Pinterest–and couldn’t resist reading the post about your “mean” comment. Even though it’s been a while since you received it, I was struck by how someone would want to “rain on someone’s parade”—WHY? Only a person miserable in their own life would be so negative. I thought your response was brilliant without being mean back. Love your bog–it’s so delightful! Wish I had a girl like you as my daughter-in-law!

  130. Emily

    May 9, 2012 at 12:41 am

    I know this is late but I couldn’t let this go without a comment….Wiggymagpye, are you for real??!! Where is she supposed to go? This is HER blog!! You are the one that needs to go “whine” somewhere else!!! It’s people like you that will always keep the mommy wars going strong. If you can’t say anything nice…..

  131. Hong Ballam

    May 27, 2012 at 4:00 am

    Undeniably believe that which you stated. Your favorite reason appeared to be on the web the easiest thing to be aware of. I say to you, I certainly get irked while people think about worries that they just don’t know about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top and defined out the whole thing without having side effect , people can take a signal. Will probably be back to get more. Thanks

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  133. DennisG

    July 4, 2012 at 9:44 am

    Some people just don’t “get” a healthy dose of self st, or sarcasm.
    Just found your blog through Twitter, and I like the way you write. It’s your tone of voice, so keep it up, and don’t let the haters get to you!

  134. Tara Denny

    July 17, 2012 at 7:59 am

    What a coward to have posted such a nasty comment “anonymously”. My opinion on the blog thing, it’s YOUR blog, post what you want, make no apologies. Some women go out and cheat on their husbands or make their lives miserable when they’re annoyed, you post pics of his head on funny bodies. YOU HEATHEN!!! (just kidding)
    It sounds to me like the bitter one is the wild commenter. It sounds like she got left by someone, or like she wants your life and somehow can’t have it. Some people can’t let other people be happy.
    You handled it perfectly, and she was so off base on everything she said.
    Congrats on your growing internet fame!

  135. Sandra

    August 29, 2012 at 3:35 pm

    I just started reading your blog and I looooove it!
    I can soo feel you!
    Do not understand the mean comment, but probably because our sense of humor and seeing life is kind of alike.
    And I love the letter to your family, could be my words and I love my family as well to death!
    Thank you for being honest and that makes the blog a bit more authentic!
    Kind regards

    Sandra

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  137. Christy Crist

    September 9, 2012 at 6:35 pm

    Just found your blog and I love it! Some people are so unhappy that they can’t get rid of it unless they spread it around a little. I know how supremely blessed I am to have all my children (4) and the unique experience of so many at different developmental stages (17, 11, and 4 y/o twins) I literally had to say in the same 30 second interval yesterday…’OMG you need to go shave you look like a homeless grizzly bea’r to my oldest and ‘I really think you should go try to potty cuz we are about to leave the house’ to one of the twins. I get to go from mommy to mentor and back again throughout the day and it is awesome! But it is not all sunshine and rainbows and sometimes I have to vent-we all do. There are nights when I come up with a list and head to Wally world or Target just to get away from my loving families for an hour so my head doesn’t explode. You vent in the healthiest way possible! Keep doing what you do- it makes us smile and we have been there and feel you!

  138. MamaSparz

    September 11, 2012 at 9:19 pm

    Well said.

  139. Toulouse

    September 18, 2012 at 10:07 pm

    Now that’s grace. Far more than I have. I’d have told her to go out and buy herself a sense of humor.

  140. Renee

    September 26, 2012 at 10:44 pm

    She should have read your post about the 13 things not to do while PMSing. Obviously she needs to read #10. Keep it funny and honest.

  141. OldDogNewTits

    October 3, 2012 at 6:27 am

    I’m about to leave a long comment. All good stuff. Still, I apologize for its length.

    Ever see the movie Private Parts? I am not a huge Howard Stern fan. Promise. But this movie was interesting. I love this little exchange between an audience researcher and Pig Vomit (a radio executive) during the early days in his career.

    Researcher: The average radio listener listens for eighteen minutes. The average Howard Stern fan listens for – are you ready for this? – an hour and twenty minutes.
    Pig Vomit: How can that be?
    Researcher: Answer most commonly given? “I want to see what he’ll say next.”
    Pig Vomit: Okay, fine. But what about the people who hate Stern?
    Researcher: Good point. The average Stern hater listens for two and a half hours a day.
    Pig Vomit: But… if they hate him, why do they listen?
    Researcher: Most common answer? “I want to see what he’ll say next.”

    This little nugget carries me as a blogger. It’s the whole no such thing as bad publicity thing. That woman is talking about you. Talking to her moms club, the ladies in her tennis circle and/or the people in her office. And … every time she does it … YOU get a new reader. And they think she’s crazy. A person need only read ONE of your posts to know that her claims are that of a madwoman.

    Still in all, I leave you with this piece of fun advice. When you receive “hate mail,” look at it as an opportunity. I wrote a post (please forgive me for posting the link here) about My First Hate Mail and it’s one of my most viewed posts of all time. See it here … http://wp.me/p1LoLK-1Hv. It even spawned a part two.

    You know where you stand. You know her claims are unfounded. It’s called humor. And, if everyone else is giving you the thumbs up, then that probably means something. Chin up, lady. You’re doing a fabulous job! I wish *I* was still 31.

    And I mean that in the most hateful way possible. πŸ™‚

  142. laura

    October 7, 2012 at 5:18 am

    Just be YOU! If someone doesn’t like your post of the day (or past posts)…they can just close out of your blog…well…that is what they should do.
    I just happened on this post of yours – today – and hey – I liked it immensely and plan to continue checking in on you to see what is new in your ‘trek of the woods’. Have a happy day – no matter what – take any negative comments, toss them away, and remember all the positive comments you get! πŸ™‚

  143. VenusGenetrix

    October 17, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    I hear ya. I had 3 kids in THIRTEEN MONTHS, believe it or not, and there were times I was SO. FRIGGIN’. THOROUGHLY. EXHAUSTED. I thought I was gonna kill someone — and the real me is a very non-violent person. : /

  144. Kasey

    October 24, 2012 at 2:30 pm

    Well said! I want you to know that you make me laugh with every single blog entry. The majority of the time I read each one to my daughter and husband. I’ve forwarded your blog to my best friend and sister in law. I love that you are honest– and it’s obvious that you are happy. If you weren’t happy how could you have such a sense of humor. I’ve never read a cruel comment that you’ve made. If you ask me you are 100% right — the person who left you that comment is very bitter, very lonely and very jealous. I’m sad for that person. Anna– you make some my overwhelming days so much better with laughter. Keep up the GREAT work!
    (This all being said from a mother of a 17 & 20 year old, 2 step children, three dogs, two cats, works full time, newly married 2.5 years ago AND finds your blog to be one of the things I look forward to each day.)
    Haters will Hate. It’s those type of people who teach us who we do NOT want to be!

  145. Ronald

    October 25, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    I think you will always have to deal with people that
    like to bring you down for whatever reason
    But they are the Minority

  146. candace

    November 2, 2012 at 1:15 am

    Hi I have only just started to read your blog and I can relate to so many of your posts! I laugh at so many things you write as I have done and said most of them!
    I have started to follow you on Facebook too. Keep up the good work, and ignore those negative comments.

  147. Josie Bisett

    November 7, 2012 at 8:01 am

    Hi Lovely Anna! I haven’t had such a mean comment yet – but each time I click publish I dread that it’s coming. I’ve had one or two reproving comments which have upset me a little, so I’d be balling if I got one like yours! I’ve had 3 kids in 3 years. It’s totally the best thing ever, my life is beautiful – and all that jazz. But not every moment is as beautiful and it takes courage to share the crappier stuff. I love to poke fun at myself and the hubs. LAUGHTER is the best medicine! Devastatingly, one of my best friends had a still birth not long after I started blogging and it made me question everything I wrote. I didn’t want her to see me crying over spilled mac and cheese. It just doesn’t compare. But all our feelings are valid, no matter how little or big the problem is. It’s so hard to find the balance between sensitivity, honesty and humor. Ultimately we can’t protect everyone from their own feelings. Your mean commenter sounds like they were in a dark place of lost husband/and or children or hasn’t been lucky enough to find what we have yet. I’m sorry for that. However, your blog is FANTASTIC! Much love from JosieB

  148. Krista

    December 6, 2012 at 2:47 pm

    Love your blog, find it honest and refreshing…. Ignore the haters, you do not owe them anything!!!

  149. Dawn

    December 7, 2012 at 7:42 am

    Seriously just caught up with this incident (I think) or maybe I just forgot, or didn’t comment before. Or maybe I did and forgot because …well I am getting up there in age and I do forget stuff. BUT- you are such a breath of fresh (really FRESH- as my hubs likes to say to me!) air and I love your humor and think the person that wrote that comment actually sounds bitter. Some people just don’t get it. I hate when people heap condemnation on others. It is a big pet peeve of mine. But that’s a whole other comment! So you just keep finding the funny and being it. Because some of us get you. I totally do and I appreciate , relate and understand your heart to laugh at the irony in life while simultaneously loving it! I used to love my min-van , too! If this is bordering on a rant, sorry about that- it’s my first free day at home: coffee and a window of time wide open- dangerous! Have a lovely weekend, Anna! Thanks for making me smile and LOL today (other post!)- this one just irritates me! πŸ˜‰

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  151. Nopphanat

    January 2, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    Allison: glad you enjoyed it. Karl wtries well and I really identified with his article.mj, bg and sam: I have no idea why I can’t see your blog either. I use Firefox on Mac, maybe that has something to do with it? Sometimes, what looks good in Internet Explorer doesn’t match the looks in other browsers. The old WSIWYG vs. WYSIWOG debate. What you see isn’t necessarily what others see. Does that make sense?Karl: It definitely is a big deal. Sorry for misquoting you, I will change it, forthwith.

  152. Miranda

    January 14, 2013 at 2:07 pm

    I just came across your blog today and have been laughing my butt off reading it all morning. Thanks so much for putting a sense of humor into parenting, it has really been a joy to read your posts this morning.

  153. Michelle

    January 14, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    My friend Jessica Kutcha pointed me to your blog (I think you know each other) I find your truth and honesty refreshing, and I get that crying at the zoo thing…it happens to me often! In the same token, I have wanted to throw my kids (and husband) out the window some days and when they drive me up the wall. There isn’t enough honesty with moms, they are too busy trying to compete or pretend things are just wonderful ALL the time (liars) I have a good group of girl friends that are not afraid to tell it like it is, and well you are the same. There will always be negative people out there that can take anything out of context…just keep smiling, and blogging!!

    Michelle Brennan (Collingwood, Ontario Canada)

  154. Meems

    January 17, 2013 at 6:19 pm

    Don’t worry about the humourless haters possum – we are all allowed to sound off from time to time – only an indenial loon would love the filth etc that is an inevitable part of parenting small children. Just because you can see the funny side, and have found a wonderful creative outlet for the stress of a busy life in service to others doesn’t mean you(we all) hate the life or resent the people in it. YOur readers – even all the way over here in the land of Oz – totally get it and you help us all smile at the “relentless glamour” as I call it of the whole shebang xoxo don’t go changin’ girlfren’ xoxo

  155. JiLL

    January 20, 2013 at 10:24 pm

    What a great response! I recently discovered your blog and as a new mom, you have me cracking up over these posts (most of them, this one of course was more sentimental). Please keep doing what you’re doing, you’re great at it!!

  156. Tanya

    January 21, 2013 at 11:02 pm

    Wow, fancy this being my first intro to your lovely blog! You sound as warm and sincere as your smile looks and so I am planting my blog reading eyes and a blog reader space in my list for enjoying more from your blog! Sometimes people are so quick to judge. Let’s just pass them by and enjoy what makes us happy.
    Love xox

  157. Dana

    January 23, 2013 at 11:21 am

    I think your blog is wonderful! My boys are now 22 and 25, but I remember the pain and hilarity of the earlier years…. too. πŸ™‚ Because it doesn’t stop! You in no way seem bitter to me. I guess it’s a measure of your success you got “flamed”. You handled it very well, with maturity, and honesty; with aplomb. Yay for you!! and keep up the great work! You keep us smiling and we are grateful for your sharing! Love!

  158. ajh

    January 23, 2013 at 8:43 pm

    beautiful post! well said … as a mother myself, I agree it’s not all sunshine and glitter as you said. being a mother is the best thing that happened to me, but boy oh boy, what an adjustment it was!!!

  159. tonya cozart

    February 6, 2013 at 7:06 pm

    Fabulous Blog! I just recently found you, can’t even remember where and love your humor…makes me jealous! I wish I could be so witty and write too!
    Love it all, keep it coming!

  160. Shannon

    February 14, 2013 at 9:10 pm

    Aren’t people wacked? I got rid of Facebook because people don’t understand humor in parenting. The craziest part? Not a ONE of the nasty people had children. What’s with that?? I couldn’t deal with them as well as you so I just ditched it am a happier person without them. Keep it up!!

  161. Susie

    February 14, 2013 at 9:39 pm

    I have wound up on your blog from Pinterest a few times. I love it! I am not a mom, but I am a nanny & aunt, so I recognize a lot of the feelings you write about. (And I live in cincy- small world!)

    I think you handled that mean post exceptionally well. 99% of your readers support you. And the 1% who doesn’t, should probably just stop reading.

    I think you are great & your kids are precious! Keep up the blogging good work! πŸ™‚

  162. Pam T

    February 20, 2013 at 7:51 pm

    My daughter just introduced me to your page and I have had some good belly laughs!! I just read the blog about your “mean comment”…meh, sounds like a candidate for the slap pole and a few drive-bys! lol There is a line I am familiar with, “Someone says something unkind about me. How do I react?” First ask yourself, is it true, if it is, you might want to make adjustments, but if it isn’t, then let it go. “Consider the source” is another part of that. And I agree, sounds like that poor woman has some huge voids in her life. Humor a and faith is what have gotten me through some tough times!! Laughter is SO therapeutic, thank you for sharing of your life experiences, so we can all share the laughter with you! God bless!

  163. Jen K

    March 19, 2013 at 11:44 am

    You know you haven’t arrived until you have some haters, stalkers and nay-sayers!

    Kudos to you!

  164. Jen K

    March 19, 2013 at 11:45 am

    Oh also, you are funny as hell! And yes, if moms don’t see the funny side of things, what else is left? Poop, pee, puke and boogers.

  165. Melissa N.

    April 4, 2013 at 9:08 pm

    I love everything about your blog. πŸ™‚ KEEP IT UP! You are positive and real and hilarious. I think you would be an awesome friend to know in real life. πŸ™‚

  166. sandy

    April 4, 2013 at 11:20 pm

    Love the pic if Even Steven in the bathing trunks.WOW what a body.Now find a pumped up muscle bound body builder and put Even Steven on that.Then there is always a man or woman in their 80s or 90s.Lets jazz it up.I love your blogs.

  167. christie

    June 4, 2013 at 8:18 am

    Love it. I hope when I get my first mean comment that I am able to be as savvy as you. I got a mean comment after I commented on someone elses comment (are you with me? i’ll wait while you go read that again)…..>waiting<….
    And I was all "Oh BEEE-OTCH did NOT!"
    Not so savvy. Or witty.
    So, once I have more than just my friends and fam following me who won't make mean comments because I know where they live and I have very good aim with a roll of toilet paper, I will come back and read this again.

  168. Vicki

    September 9, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    I am new to your blog and just happened upon it when someone shared one of your posts. I now look forward to every post you make because I have never laughed so hard! Having a sense of humor is one of the best things in life. I am grateful for mine every day and when I come across someone without one (like your mean-poster) I just shake my head and think “how sad for them.” Keep doing what you’re doing. It’s wonderful!

  169. Northern Virginia Real Estate

    September 15, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    Great response. I love this! We also have 3 young kids and you definitely need a good sense of humor to survive. As much as a blessing it is to have kids (when they are sleeping like angels…J.K.) it is tough going! Being able to write, share and create a community we can all enjoy is worthy of a pat on the back, “Like” or whatever. We definitely enjoy your sense of humor so keep it up and hang in there!

  170. asdf4567

    October 12, 2013 at 3:10 am

    I can’t have a blog like you because my life is not as good as yours. I’ve suffered a lot of abuse, and that is not the kind of thing you tell people about. Well, I hope that’s not how it is for you. I’m glad that some people have nothing to hide, and reading your blog has showed me two things: 1.) I really do have something to hide, and 2.) The way my marriage was is really not the way marriages should be. Could I have been more like you?

  171. Parri

    October 29, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    I just discovered your blog, so this comment is definitely not timely, but I felt your anguish. I’ve been humor blogging for a month. All I want to do is make people laugh. … for FREE! And I had one lady call me a fat bitch. It was very hurtful. But I decided to focus on the people who ARE enjoying what I write and ARE laughing. … and for once in my life to tune out the minority negative voices that I let color my world for way too long. I’m glad you did the same. And I enjoy your blog … the humor you find in everyday situations. I’m excited to read more!

  172. Melinda

    October 31, 2013 at 1:16 pm

    Your blogs are really funny and well written, and they remind me of my crazy family. I’m glad to have found a blog that has a similar sense of humor! Keep writing, I’m sure moms from all over can relate. I know my mom can. πŸ˜‰

  173. Anita

    January 29, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    Okay so I’m kind of stalking your blog because it makes me laugh… A LOT. I just started writting my blog. LiveLikeYouAreRich and I’ve its been getting a lot of views and so then come the rude comments. Lot of views=rude comments I guess. I like how you responded to this one. I just delete them if they are super bitter like this one. But this is a great way to respond. Perhaps the next one I get that is bitter I’ll be able to think about it more like you did with this one. Its incredible to me how rude some people are. But it is nice to know that the majority of our readers appreciate what we write and are kind people. Thanks for the laughs. I’ll be stopping by often!

  174. bethany ramos

    February 14, 2014 at 7:29 am

    I came upon this blog little late, but I am also a humorous mommy blogger from Mommyish.com. I thank you so much for posting this because it gave me a lot of encouragement. I absolutely love blogging and having a sense of humor and being real about parenting, but I think that there are plenty of people that don’t understand it. I’ve also noticed that as a post gets more traffic, people always come on the tail end to outright attack you, calling me a terrible parent and a whore in some cases. Ugh.

    Keep doing what you’re doing and so will I. You’re doing a great job! Your kids will appreciate your honesty and sense of humor in the future.

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