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I was really hesitant to publish my post yesterday.

It unfortunately seems to be true that anytime you ask for parenting advice online – or any advice, actually – you’re basically issuing an open invitation to Internet trolls everywhere to come and be mean to you – and to each other.

I was waiting for comments calling me a terrible mother. Calling me fat (because that’s always an easy thing to toss in.) Telling me that they feel bad for my kids.

I wondered if my readers would understand that just because I don’t really want to see my 6-year-old before 6 am that I love seeing him as often as possible after 6 am.

I wondered if people would really understand that I love my kids. I wondered if I would be judged. Or – even worse – I wondered if my readers would start judging each other…

So I was definitely hesitant to publish my post yesterday.

And then I watched as the comments came pouring in – both on my blog and on Facebook.

And – WOW!

Your suggestions and advice ran the gamut – from rewards to discipline. From parents and grandparents. Some people said I should spank him. Some people said I should pull him into bed and snuggle him.

Some people said he needed tough love.

Others said he just needed love.

And several people suggested a gate. Or stickers. Or signs. Or all of the above.

Every single comment was thoughtful. Every comment came from a place of someone truly trying to offer help and advice.

And despite some hugely different approaches to the best way to handle this situation – not a single person said anything disrespectful to me or to another reader.

There were no fights.

There were no judgements.

There was no name calling.

I’ve never been prouder to have such a huge community of amazing women here at My Life and Kids.

I mean – seriously? You all made my entire day!

Thank you for being the best readers on the entire planet.

Thank you for being so respectful of each other.

And thank you for being you!

Not to get all schmoopy on you, but how amazing would it be if the entire internet was full of wonderful, positive, uplifting people like YOU?

Thank you!

Oh – and PS – Thanks for the awesome parenting advice too! I’ll be sure to keep you posted on what we try and how it works!

Update: I just closed comments on that post. People were still being kind – but I started getting comments from escort services. And that’s usually a sign to shut it down.

15 Comments

  1. thedoseofreality

    March 12, 2014 at 7:20 am

    Always so nice when people rise up and surprise you! P.S. I am a big fan of reward systems, too!

  2. Carol

    March 12, 2014 at 7:43 am

    Everyone seemed pretty nice, but the Escort Service from Bangalore commenter might have been a bit off topic.

  3. Apryl

    March 12, 2014 at 8:07 am

    I didn’t think that was possible! Lol you may have broken the blogging internet! Love your posts πŸ™‚

  4. Jhanis

    March 12, 2014 at 8:07 am

    Isn’t it awesome when people agree to disagree on some things? πŸ™‚

  5. Judy Grieve

    March 12, 2014 at 8:24 am

    We have all been there…I had 6 babies…I feel your pain( or the need for even 5 more minutes of blissful sleep!) let me reassure you…they are all grown up now with their own babies and THEY now are in this same rock boat. It never damaged their little psyches in any way !

  6. Krystal

    March 12, 2014 at 9:07 am

    You are a great mom, we all know that. And your funny as hell to boot….how could anyone be mean to you?! We all have problems with our own children, no matter what any parents says, its true. I have a 3 year old diva/hell raiser of my own who tests every little line and rule. Being a parent is exactly like a tornado, sometimes you can fight them with all of your might and still end up with a disaster or you can just let them take you with in their wind, have fun making the disaster with them, but hopefully they will help you clean it up. Lol……little monsters πŸ™‚

  7. Tiffanie

    March 12, 2014 at 9:08 am

    I have two who do that . They are 7 and 9 both Aspies and one has a sleep disorder. So i get the Mom can I play at 3am. Sometimes it’s can i make breakfast? I ‘m right there with you. I’m going to try some of these suggestions too!

  8. Sarah Robson

    March 12, 2014 at 9:11 am

    I also have been wondering what to do with my eighteen month old who talks exuberantly of mommy and daddy, balls, and birdies tweeting before I am coherent. For now, at least, he is content to chit chat merrily in his crib while I drag myself to the shower. I dread the day when he’ll be in a big boy bed. I’ll have to go back and read your last blog and comments at a time when I don’t have the dog whining at me, four mountains of laundry teetering over my head and two kids yelling “mommy” in concert unison.

  9. Ashlee

    March 12, 2014 at 9:23 am

    Women should always try and encourage and empower one another, not put each other down. I’m glad everyone shared nothing but helpful advice for you!

  10. Dona

    March 12, 2014 at 9:46 am

    I subscribe to the comments (just in case you answer) and saw that one from the escort service!! I really don’t think that would help him. Even Steven, maybe…………..

  11. Jennifer

    March 12, 2014 at 2:04 pm

    I posted something on FB about when I was pregnant with baby number 1 and 2 how I thought baby movement at night was just so cute, and that now with baby number 3 I just want a little sleep. Most seemed to get it, bit one person commented how she was always grateful for baby number 3’s movement, even when it would wake her up from a dead sleep in the middle of the night, and that she was still grateful for his active life years later. I had to comment back and say that as a mom I was pretty sure it was ok to be grateful for baby movement but still want times of peace and quiet. We’re mom’s 24/7 but that doesn’t mean we don’t need sleep or breaks and have to be ecstatice every time our kids wake up in the middle of the night.

  12. Lisa R. Petty

    March 12, 2014 at 2:24 pm

    I have no advice for now, and that is why I didn’t comment yesterday. I will tell you to just focus on the future. One day, your little darling will be 13 or so, and WANT TO SLEEP late. πŸ™‚ (insert evil Sam Kinison laugh) This is when YOU get up early and wake him up. You will have your revenge, sister. πŸ™‚

  13. Tess @ Tips on Life & Love

    March 12, 2014 at 5:24 pm

    I think everyone struggles with being a parent, because there’s always this constant worry if you’re doing the right thing. But the truth is, what matters is that you’re trying, and that you’re aware of your “flaws” (or whatever you want to call them) as a parent. After all, you’re only human. Kids sometimes don’t realize that until much later.

  14. sparkling74

    March 12, 2014 at 7:27 pm

    The teacher in me is SO HAPPY that you are actually following through with this rule you’ve set up. It is totally not a bad rule, you are not locking him in his room, you’re just keeping him out of yours until a reasonable hour and he needs to respect that. I find that so many parents do not follow through with the rules they create so then when kids come to school and we have rules, they constantly believe if they “forget” or keep pushing, we’ll give in. It’s so exhausting and takes up so much of our time that could be used teaching the right things instead of arguing with kids about following rules! Kids who respect rules learn to appreciate the rewards that come from following the rules and when parents have firm rules, kids learn what happens when the rules are broken. I only wish more people would impose reasonable rules like this on kids so that they understand that rules are not meant to show kids how much we dislike them, but how much we do like them because we want them to be civil, functioning citizens in this world!

  15. Tracy @ The UnCoordinated Mommy

    March 13, 2014 at 11:59 am

    That is so great!! I have been lucky enough to avoid trolls for now, it that’s probably because I’m still a small blog πŸ™‚ hope the tides are changing though!!

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