My Mom

Letting Go is Hard to Do

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I will be the first to admit that it is HARD to have your kids grow up. My Alice is almost 4 years old, and I still try to breastfeed her before bed every night.

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I’m kidding. I don’t try to breastfeed her.

But I do reminisce about the days when she used to sleep all day long.

Okay – kidding there too. But – for real – my kids were a lot easier before they could walk or talk – just saying…

Anyways, my mom also struggled with me growing up. She had a really hard time letting go even after I went to college.

This was especially demonstrated during a visit home during my junior year of college.

I was 21 at the time, and I was heading to some bars with my brother and sister-in-law. My mom (of course) volunteered to join us as our designated driver.

As the night came to a close, I grabbed my purse to pay for the last round of drinks, and my wallet was gone. No where to be found – most likely stolen.

I started to cause a little bit of a scene, before my mom pulled me aside and handed me my wallet.

She saw me drinking and was afraid I would misplace it. So she took it out of my purse and put it into hers – you know – so it wouldn’t get lost.

Two days later, she and I were shopping together when we decided to take a bathroom break. I was finishing up and realized that I was in a stall with a dysfunctional toilet paper dispenser. It barely dispensed, and I was stuck grabbing toilet paper one square at a time.

I was trying to gather enough squares to get the job done, when my mom yelled from the next stall over, “ANNA – THAT IS ENOUGH!”

As in – You have enough toilet paper.

As in – Don’t waste the mall’s toilet paper.

As in – While I don’t actually know what you did in the toilet or how much toilet paper you need or how much you’ve already gotten, I can tell as your mother that you have ENOUGH!

Looking back, I guess I’m lucky that she didn’t hop the stall and wipe my bottom for me.


  1. anna

    October 17, 2012 at 10:42 am

    oh this is hilarious. and your mom is a good sport about being blog fodder 🙂

  2. Janine Huldie

    October 17, 2012 at 10:46 am

    Oh Anna, I used to think my mom was crazy at times too especially as a late teen and my early twenties, when all I wanted was to grow up and she just couldn’t help but have trouble in the letting go part. Now that I have two little girls of my own, I am starting to slowly get it each step of the way as they grow a bit. Great job here relaying how you feel with the stories of your mom and truly got a good giggle at how you summed it up!!!

  3. Mom

    October 17, 2012 at 11:04 am

    Okay – listen – about the toilet paper incident – I was obviously irritated with you for something else and I clearly remember that it sounded like you were using an entire roll – so I reverted to my Mom role. That’s what Mom’s do. If you had been 4 years old it would have been appropriate – so I forgot you were 20 – so sue me.

    And the wallet? If you remember – it wasn’t until the next day when you went to pay for something and you couldn’t find it that I realized I had it – so I handed it to you at the cash register and you made a big deal out of it and THEN we used the bathroom and that’s why I was mad at you. I remember it clearly now.

    I do think of that now and then when I am shopping in that store and it does make me laugh. I am sorry about the sheets and the BB gun though…but that has had me laughing all day 🙂

  4. Jennifer

    October 17, 2012 at 11:22 am

    I just hope I traumatize my children as much as your mom has you! These are hilarious!

  5. hollow tree ventures

    October 17, 2012 at 11:58 am

    I LOVE this post. It reminds me of the time my mom drove me to the doctor’s office. In the car I mentioned I should have gone to the bathroom before we left, so when we got there she announced to the room, “Is she going to have to pee in a cup? Because she has to go NOW.” All I’m saying is, you and me and our moms should all go shopping together some time.

  6. Lisa

    October 17, 2012 at 12:11 pm

    I have to say that I totally love your mom. Please keep her stories coming. What a funny lady.

  7. imklvr

    October 17, 2012 at 5:40 pm

    hilarious….of course. AND, I’m not going to tell you about the money we’re losing. Because….I have another GREAT idea!! I just finished reading a book on Pres Regan, and am now ready one by his wife, entitiled “My Turn”. See? You write your book, then your mom can write a comeback to all your chapters! Oh, girl….AND MOM…..we’re gonna be SO STINKING RICH!!!

  8. Amy K.

    October 17, 2012 at 7:05 pm

    I love all of your posts, but holy cow, your mom’s comments are just the icing on an already delicious (hilarious?) cake!!

  9. Shaina

    October 17, 2012 at 8:34 pm

    Too funny!!! But I want to know how the hell you
    Remember all this?!

  10. Stephanie

    October 17, 2012 at 9:26 pm

    I love your mom:-) She’s the mom I always wanted:-)

  11. mollie griffin

    October 17, 2012 at 9:42 pm

    It just goes to show you that being a mother is not from birth to 18 years old, but instead a job that last a lifetime. While our children do grow up they never stop being our children nor do we stop being their mothers. Plus it sounds like you need her around since you are still wasting all the toliet paper…lol

  12. Robin Jingjit

    October 18, 2012 at 6:23 am

    Your moms comments are the best part, for sure.

  13. Robin Jingjit

    October 18, 2012 at 6:30 am

    No, I just scrolled up to the top and remembered the breastfeeding line. That was actually the funniest. At first glance I caught my breath just little before I reminded myself that there are all kinds of moms out there and that a lot of people thought I breastfed my kids for “too long” so I wasn’t going to judge. But you got a good chuckle out of me on that one.

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