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Ignoring the Good Mother in my Head

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I find that I spend a lot of my days asking myself, “What would a good mother do right now?

And then I try to do it.

What would a good mother do?

Change that stinky diaper right now.

What would a good mother do?
Turn off the television and take the kids outside.

What would a good mother do?
Give more hugs, kisses, blah, blah, blah…

But, sometimes, I get sick of that “good mother” voice in my head, and I just ignore her.

For example, last week we were riding bikes in the driveway.

What a good mother would have done: Wiped the peanut butter off of Alice’s face after breakfast – and wiped the paint off her forehead after lunch.

What I did: Nothing.

What a good mother would have done: Maintained Alice’s pink fingers and toes. (And maybe not let her ride her bike in flip flops.)

Alice's hands

Alice's toes

What I did: Nothing.

What a good mother would have done: RUN! KISS! COMFORT!

Alice falls on her bike

What I did: I think it’s obvious.

21 Comments

  1. Danielle Higginbottom-Brown

    April 12, 2012 at 8:15 am

    bahahhah! You rock! your the best mama! I do the exact same thing….photo’s come first!

  2. Natalie

    April 12, 2012 at 8:31 am

    Awwwwww……… You show that “good mother” hahaha

    big hugs Nat

  3. Kai

    April 12, 2012 at 8:32 am

    Little Anna, you aren’t fooling ANYONE. Yes! You ARE one of the most hysterically funny people I’ve ever encountered. YES! You love to find humor in everyday things. But, NO. Huh-uh! NO FREAKIN’ WAY, SISTER, are you ANYTHING BUT a great mommy! (Now go pick Alice up while she’s still crying and use her tears to caress her face – and at the same time, to wipe the peanut butter & paint away. It’s good to multi-task, you know!) YOU’RE A ROCKIN’ MOM, OKAY?????? Got it?????? Good! Have a super good Thursday!

  4. Connie Levline

    April 12, 2012 at 8:33 am

    Photo Op first! Then if there’s no blood or body part hanging by a thread, get up and shake it off girl…

    My littles are now biggles out on their own raising kids…you are doing fine…keep doing what you’re doing…it’s a perfect fit for you and your kids πŸ™‚

  5. sue

    April 12, 2012 at 9:57 am

    right there with ya….i took a picture of my chickens pecking my 3 year old’s feet and making him cry…then i shooed the chicken away! LOL! My favorite saying….
    “maybe next time you’ll learn”

  6. Kim

    April 12, 2012 at 10:32 am

    Clearly your hands were full with the camera and all….

  7. Divine Grace

    April 12, 2012 at 10:56 am

    You are the best mama ever! She is pretty and I love her pink nails too… Gosh I wish I can have a kid soon already…

  8. Kimberly

    April 12, 2012 at 12:56 pm

    Ha! My kids are constantly walking around with food on their faces (unless they are actually going to be seen in public) and I am always thinking “my mom would have a fit if she saw them with nutella all over their faces hours after breakfast”. I feel bad for about a minute – not long enough to actually do anything about it – and we all go on about our lives. =)

  9. imklvr

    April 12, 2012 at 1:53 pm

    Yep, looks like we all have you pegged. You ARE a good mom! Wiping faces and changing shoes doesn’t make a good mom! Getting out in the driveway with the kids, does! NOT running and cuddling (and basically making me want to puke) when a kid falls every time, makes a good mom! You are a REAL mom…in the REAL meaning of the word! I think a lot of us are.

    But….just so you know….all that goes out the door when you become a grandma. Faces will be clean, proper shoes will be worn (and bought whether needed or not) and owies will be fussed over with no puking in sight! Special food, bandaids, toys, drinks, clothes and anything else a child needs (or doesn’t) will be bought…usually in two’s so a set of everything can be left at your house.

    Uh, yeah. I’m a grandma.

  10. Jess

    April 12, 2012 at 2:26 pm

    HAH! … Never fear we all (ok, fine quite a few of moms) do it. Last year at the zoo, a monkey wrapped his tail around my son’s stroller and started pulling him towards the cage. He was freaking…the monkey was trying to steal him…so I took a picture & then recused him. Then I may or may not have scooted the stroller closer to let the monkey do it one more time….remind me to send you the picture sometime. πŸ˜‰

  11. Kai

    April 12, 2012 at 3:16 pm

    LOL! Me, too! AND a great-grandma. Trust me – that’s even WORSE! EVERYTHING the great grandkids DO is ‘adorable’, ‘precious’, and ‘pictureworthy’! Why? I don’t KNOW! Except MAYBE it’s because all of MY family is in either Wisconsin or Minnesota, and I can admire them from afar without all the messes & headaches! So, NATURALLY everything is cuter!

  12. Michelle

    April 12, 2012 at 5:07 pm

    I’m not going to tell you, oh Anna, stop it you are a good mother…because everyone tells me that too. πŸ™‚ Pshhh! Let’s just stop trying to be that “good mother” or comparing ourselves to her and make our own club…what shall we name it? πŸ™‚ I’ll let you in on a little secret…shhh…come real close…closer…closer…wait, not that close…ok, here it is…I’ll happily give up being that “good mother” for the mostly rotten mother that I am/think I am. How else are we going to have grown kids who get to retell stories as great as the ones we get to tell about our moms and our childhood! And the ones you tell about your dear mother are HILARIOUS!! Can we honestly deny the world the stories our offspring will tell someday?! No way!! It’s our legacy darling! How much fun are the stories you hear about moms who wipe their children’s faces the moment they get dirty, or have them in fancy shoes tied up in ribbons and bows and frilly dresses without a wrinkle or a spot with perfect manners and manicures and rainbows and butterflies and puffy white clouds…none fun, in reality. You don’t hear those kinds of stories anyway and you don’t hear them why? Because they are non-existant in the real world of TRUE “good” mothers. πŸ™‚

  13. Stephanie @ The Petite Sewist

    April 12, 2012 at 7:18 pm

    Forget what a good mother would do and be yourself!

  14. JD @ Honest Mom

    April 12, 2012 at 9:09 pm

    I am the absolute worst at wiping off my kids’ faces and remembering ANYTHING about nail upkeep. The last time I trimmed my kids’ nails I think there was snow on the ground.

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  16. Leanne

    April 13, 2012 at 12:53 am

    oh my word Anna, I’m trying to laugh really hard, very quietly, cuz the whole family is sleeping… this is awesome. I feel like that often! At least you were riding bikes outside, that’s a good mom thing!!

    Leanne

  17. Crystall

    April 13, 2012 at 4:59 am

    I don’t know why there is something I like coming back to your site Anna… Maybe because of the humor and the interesting posts you always have which are not boring…

  18. hollow tree ventures

    April 13, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    Bwahahaha! As I was reading I was thinking, “Oh yeah, me too – oh, the Good Mom pressure – I’m with you…” and then I saw that last pic and I laughed. so. hard. Because my kids are so used to the camera getting whipped out that they’ve actually cheesed for a photo WHILE wailing their heads off about an injury. This post is great! πŸ™‚

    (P.S. And the pics are amazing – the pink really pops, and Alice’s eyes – WOW!)

  19. Sparkling74

    April 14, 2012 at 11:13 am

    It’s all about the self soothing, right? And the good blog pics

  20. Alisha

    April 14, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    lol your did what i would have…point and shoot…..blog worthy photos can not be set aside for tears and skinned knees…good heavens, i think not!!!

    good work momma πŸ˜‰

  21. Aldy

    January 4, 2013 at 3:47 am

    My mother is no leognr with us; but I would like to have the basket for the mother of two of my grandchildren. Her husband lost his mother April 4th and this would really be a gift in memory of a very special, wonderful woman–the mother of my son in law. She raised a wonderful son who has been a great husband and father. My son in law has been without regular work for 3 years and my daughter works part time while they manage an autistic child as well as 18 months of cancer treatments for his monther. I can think of no better way to honor her menory then to have this basket as a gift in her memory. She was mom to all of her son’s friends and there were at least 6 young men with their families and their own mom’s at her services calling her mom. She only thought of her kids the three she gave birth to and their friends.

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