Five Things Every New Mom Should Know
If you’re a new mom or expecting, here are five key things you should know as you enter this crazy thing called motherhood.
1. This isn’t your new normal.
Having bags down to the floor, hair that hasn’t been washed in several days and a screaming baby in your arms is NOT your new normal.
I had moms tell me that things would only get harder…really?
Now I know I haven’t been through the terrible twos or the teenage years yet – I KNOW those are going to be REALLY hard – but it gets easier in so many ways.
Believe that. Hold on to it.
You will get there, I promise.
2. Do what’s best for you, and you’re doing what’s best for your baby.
When you become a mom, you naturally start putting your needs last because there is a totally dependent human being relying on you.
As you begin to navigate motherhood, remember that whatever is going to help you will in turn help your baby.
It’s not being selfish.
When you make choices that help you be a more balanced, happier mom, your child only stands to benefit.
Quit doing things because you think you ‘should’ do them.
If something isn’t working, change it and feel good about this change because you are doing what’s best for YOU, which will be best for YOUR FAMILY.
3. Be a ‘YES’ person when people offer help.
Accept the help while it’s available and being offered.
“Yes” you want that meal, or “yes” can your friend come over so you can take a shower, or “yes” can your mom help you write thank you notes.
Be a ‘yes’ person when it comes to people offering help.
For some family and friends, they may not know what to offer, so TELL them. Set expectations.
Before my sister delivered her first baby, she sent a mass email to our family about her expectations for meals, when we could visit, etc.
At first I just laughed at her typical type A+ personality, but she was SO smart!
She set expectations and got results, and in turn made her life so much easier.
4. It’s absolutely OK if you’re not enjoying this time.
You are not abnormal or destined to be a terrible mother if you aren’t ‘savoring’ every moment.
Before you became a mother, did you cherish every second of your life? Doubtful (if you did, I want to know your secret and you could probably make millions selling books!).
Life is hard. Kids are hard. But when the moments are good, they feel so much sweeter than before having children.
Just because you don’t enjoy certain things about being a mom, it doesn’t mean you are missing out on anything or not cut out for motherhood.
Moms that are empty nesters are always nostalgic and talk about ‘not missing out on the small moments’ because they are reflecting on that time of their lives. I guarantee when they were in it, they were losing their minds too.
You’re going to like certain moments – eventually maybe a lot of moments – and those moments are going to be amazing.
5. Rest, rest, rest.
You’ve probably heard the advice, “sleep when the baby sleeps”.
If you’re like me, I can’t nap in the middle of the day. I’ve never been able to.
So, when G was first born, I felt like I should be doing something – I cleaned and organized and exhausted my energy instead of just resting.
If you can’t nap, just rest.
Watch TV. Read. Snuggle with your baby.
Enjoy the quiet time when you get it.