Dating for Mom Friends
Finding mom friends is like dating all over again.
Let me back up…many of my good friends don’t have kids yet.
As a first time and stay-at-home mom of an almost one-year-old, I realized pretty quickly that I would need to find some mom friends to help keep my sanity.
So, I set out to meet some new friends.
I would meet a new mom with a baby around the same age as G and I would think to myself, “Ok, ok don’t blow it, act cool, this could be your new best friend and her baby could be G’s future best friend. Should I get her number? Or is that too desperate after just meeting her? Maybe I should see if we run into each other again, then perhaps it’s meant to be?”
While I’ve played it cool sometimes, other times I have really just put myself out there.
One day I was driving home and saw two moms around my age with infant strollers. They were laughing and enjoying each other and their babies.
I slammed on my breaks, pulled into a driveway, TURNED AROUND, creepily slowed down next to them and rolled down my window.
I said, “Hi, I know this is creepy,” (uh, yeah, super creepy) “But I’m a new mom looking for some mom friends,” (what a weirdo…), “Could I get your phone number and maybe we could go on a walk sometime?” (LOSER!)
They were actually really nice and seemingly not creeped out (or were at least faking it to be nice), and we did go on one walk.
Only one – I think I was broken up with because I haven’t seen them since. I’ve tried getting back together, but somehow it never seems to work out.
They’re just not that into me I guess. Did I say the wrong things? Was it them, not me?
After playing my desperation card, I realized I just had to be patient, and you know what? I’ve been able to meet some fantastic mom friends through random circumstances.
We’re honest with each other about motherhood, namely the ups and downs we’ve faced over the past year – it’s so refreshing.
And the funny thing is, they had similar ‘dating’ stories as me.
Bottom line is, I didn’t realize that becoming a mom would make me enter a different kind of dating scene, but I’m grateful I’ve found a few good friends that get me.