My Mom is Spoiled – and I Am Not

It’s often the case that my mom and my daughter FaceTime eachother in the mornings before Alice goes to preschool.

It’s also often the case that my mom is still in bed during their morning conversation.

Sometimes I listen in, but most of the time I’m busy getting the 2-year-old dressed or the 6-year-old on the bus. Or eating breakfast. Or checking in on Facebook. Or just sitting there staring into space…

But I just happened to be part of the conversation one day last week, when I saw the strangest thing happen.

There was my mom, sitting in bed talking on her iPad to us – and in walked my dad – delivering my mom’s morning cup of coffee.

“Mom,” I said. “What exactly just happened there?”

Oh – your dad knows how much I like to have my coffee first thing in the morning, so he delivers it to me in bed.

Every morning.

Apparently this has been going on for the last five years. My mom stays in bed until her coffee is delivered.

And – only after she drinks that first cup – does she get up and start her day.

I pushed her to please share her little secret with me on how I could receive some similar treatment at my house.

And she finally admitted that when she first retired, she wasn’t always the fastest to hop out of bed in the morning. And eventually – after many mornings passing her by – this became their new routine.

My dad gets ready for work, brews a pot of coffee, delivers my mom’s first cup to her in bed and heads off to work. After she’s finished the last drop, she starts her day.

I was shocked.

Me: So let me get this straight. You stopped getting out of bed, and so my dad started bringing you coffee?

My Mom: Yup. Pretty much.

Using my mom’s advice, I decided to give it a try. When Even Steven got up for work and woke up every single person in the house, with his ridiculously loud everything, I told him I would be staying in bed until he delivered my morning coffee.

Even Steven

I woke up 90 minutes later.

I raced downstairs in a panic to find that Even Steven had left for work.

The television was blaring.

Alice and Simon were playing on the iPad.

Big Hairy Dog was drinking out of the toilet.

And Miles had eaten four containers of applesauce and was busy gluing them together to make a rocket ship.

Which I’m pretty sure means that I’m a terrible mom.

And I made a poor choice in husbands.

If only he weren’t so cute…

Even Steven

PS – When I asked my mom to please send me a picture of herself drinking coffee in bed – so that I could include it in my blog post – this is what she sent me.

My Mom in Bed with Coffee

Bonus points if you can name that movie.

24 comments on “My Mom is Spoiled – and I Am Not

  1. Married the wrong guy, too, because he wouldn’t bring me coffee first thing in bed int he morning either! And like you only if ine wasn’t so damned cute, lol!

  2. I think the coffee in bed thing has to do with how long you’ve been married. Don’t ya think? When you’ve been married as long as your mom and dad, I’m sure Even Steven will bring you coffee then! Unless, of course, you write a book, then I’LL bring you coffee!! Dona

  3. I married the right guy. If I asked him to deliver coffee in bed, he would. He already gets up before me and takes care of our 3 cats and 2 dogs. Then, I stroll downstairs 30 minutes later, and make coffee like I have created fire or something. I’m the weak link here. : ) Maybe we can have your dad and my husband teach the others.

  4. Do I dare speak up knowing that it’ll make a few of you jealous? Well yes, yes I will but only Because the subject was brought up. My lovely husband makes my coffee every morning. On the weekends it’s always delivered to me. I know, I know! How did this ritual come to be? I really have no idea. It could be I’m not the most pleasant person before coffee so really he’s just doing it for his own selfish reasons. There’s a slight possibility it’s because he loves me.

  5. I enjoyed reading this SO much!! I’m so happy for your mom…but it sucks for the rest of us…lol!! My husband doesn’t drink coffee, nor does anybody else in his family…weird, I know! When we were dating, he took me and my two kids on a trip to the mountains with parents (yes, he really is a great guy!) The first morning, to my surprise, he brought me a cup of coffee while my daughter and I were still in bed. After he walked out, my daughter said, “Mommy, that coffee looks funny.” I looked down and noticed that my coffee was white. I walked downstairs and asked what kind of coffee he had made. To make this story a little shorter, he had mixed creamer and water and thought he was making coffee. Bless his heart…he tried…and that’s all that mattered to me! I think I new right then that I would marry him one day!!

  6. My husband would tell me, “you want coffee, do it yourself.. aint nobody got time for that..”

    He also is a loud person in the morning, he has to turn EVERY light in the house on as well, he also turns on pandora on his phone super loud and wakes up the baby before my alarm goes off, that’s a no good in my book.

  7. Oh, if I wanted it, he would do it. But he would wake me up to ask me where the coffee was. Then again to ask which cup I wanted. Then again to ask how much cream and sugar. Then to ask where we KEEP the cream and the sugar bowl is empty so do we have any more? Then again to ask where I said the extra sugar is. Then to tell me we have no clean spoons so is it okay if he doesn’t stir it. Then “How do I work this machine again??”. Finally I would grit my teeth and just DO. It. MYSELF. And he would smile sweetly and say “Thanks dear. Mind making me one while you are there?”. And then he would not make it to work because he would become a missing person.

  8. So funny. My husband does the exact same thing for me. He knows I’m less likely to hiss at him if he wakes me up by placing a cup of coffee on my nightstand. He also does all the laundry, so I guess I’m a little spoiled, too.
    I should start face timing with your Mom. Maybe she has more tricks up her sleeve she can let me in on.

  9. YOU’VE GOT MAIL! I love that apartment! And, I love your dad. And, your mom. And, you. And, Even Steven better step it up!

  10. One of my favorite movies ever- I call it my sleepy time movie. When I get to take a nap (rare occasion because I too made a questionable husband choice) I always put it on, I know it so well that is lulls me to sleep!

  11. My husband comes and cuddles me awake in the morning, then while I’m getting mentally prepared to get out of bed he goes to the foot of the bed and puts my socks on for me.

    I’m not even joking. I know this is weird. I know this should mean my husband is a wuss who needs to grow a pair, but actually, he’s really a very strong man, he just knows the meaning of the word ‘cherish’. At least that’s what I tell myself while I’m trying not to giggle from him putting my socks on :)

  12. you’ll either hate me for this or think its brilliant, but my super independent 12 year old gets herself around in the morning while i’m usually still half sleeping and SHE pours me coffee (programmed the night before to brew at 7am), with cream and sugar, and brings it in when she says bye. my hubby works overnights so he’s just getting home in the morning as the kiddo is walking out the door for school

  13. Um what? If I asked my boyfriend to bring me coffee is bed, he would probably say a few cuss words and tell me something I need to do like take out the trash (even though I do every other chore other than trash, and even sometimes still do the trash). I need to come stay a few nights with your mom and request a cup of coffee as well.

  14. I’m married to what we Jewish people call “a mensch!” For years, I was the one to get up and pack my daughter’s lunch and take her to day care and, later, school. Then when I was teaching a couple of years ago, I had to get up at 5:30 and couldn’t do it all and get myself out the door at 6:30. So he started getting up, packing both our lunches, even whipping up breakfast some time … then going back to bed, because he was a boutique owner and didn’t have to go in until 10! I’m back in the corporate world now, but the tradition has carried on. Honestly, I don’t know how for 18 of our 20 years together, I did it all without his help!

  15. My hubs is a morning person and is known to get the kids ready if they are up and let me sleep till 7 when he actually has to get ready for work. I can’t complain – he would probably do this if I asked, but I would rather sleep a few extra minutes (30) then have a cup of coffee.